A while back, when I was working away, a junior colleague suggested we should go together to visit an Escort or try an erotic massage parlour when the project was over. It was a suggestion which came right out of the blue, least of all as I always keep my private life exactly that and he would have had absolutely no idea as to my extra curricula activities! He was merely making the suggestion to try to make me more interesting or to embarrass me!
Was it a good idea of his? Was I tempted? No! I value my privacy and prefer to keep my activities to myself. Least of all, as he would then always have had a hold over me and I think it would have been unprofessional of me if I had put myself in this position. Indeed, if it were ever to have come out, would it have compromised my job? Rightly or wrongly, I decided (instantly) it was not worth it!
This only served to egg him on and he went on about it for weeks, but I just stonewalled every conversation by saying I was not interested and it was not my thing.
I am sure he drew the conclusion I am dull, but, do you know what? I do not care! Discretion is the greatest part of valour and all that!
Eventually he dropped it and now when we meet, he never mentions sex, whereas previously, it was his only topic of conversation!
I have often said how it can be a lonely life for a Punter (read “Loneliness of the long distance Punter”) and I know plenty of guys do have a Punting Buddy, someone to share experiences and recommendations with.
Would I not like to have such a Buddy? Only possibly. It would probably be someone I only know indirectly and we would have to share tastes and he would have to be on the same wavelength on discretion. I know, I am not asking for much, am I?
In short, I have done this for over four years on my own, so I am in no rush to change this.
Circle of trust
Ultimately, who can one trust? At what point does one know one can trust someone else?
Trust is such a finite commodity. After all, what is the use of 95% trust? It is only any good if trust is absolute. As I once heard it put, it is like a plane trying to fly only 95% of the time it is in the air.
Therefore, unless I am sure trust and discretion are absolute, I am not interested in divulging anything!
I am sure we have all had experience of those individuals who pay lip service to loyalty and trust, who will say one thing to us and something completely contrary to others. I am afraid I really do not have time for people like this. I really do believe in karma and what goes around cones around. Good luck to them I say, but we will never get on.
If in any doubt, it is best to exercise caution. At the end of the day, discretion really is the better part of valour.