I have heard lots of massage providers complained about their clients for many things: away late for appointment, disrespect, Ask too many personal questions, talking to phone during a session, etc. And I always wanted to write something for my reader and massage lovers, to give them a hint of how to be a ‘good client’. Yes, being a good sensual massage client is good for you – You will get better service and great experience in your session – after all, masseuses are not machines, they have feelings. I read two posts this week , all talking about their own opinion of what a client should do in an erotic massage sessions, very comprehensive, let’s learn some basic erotic massage etiquette together.
*About Session: A majority, not all, of FBSM sessions involve female providers and male clients. The article assumes the massage provider is a woman, and the client’s a man.
*What is Extra service: Any extra services performed during full body sensual massage sessions tend to include more than just the masseuse’s hands.
*FBSM? A full body sensual massage (FBSM) is when a client is nude, and the masseuse is nearly naked or fully naked. An FBSM uses hands-only that leads to a client’s release. This kind of service is deemed legal in UK.
10 Tips on How to Treat Your Massage Therapist
#1 Arrive On Time For Your Appointment
When you have an appointment, wherever that appointment is, that you arrive on time for it. And, even if the sensual massage is a personal appointment for you, it’s their business. Make sure to treat them with respect by arriving on time, and you’ll earn it back.
Many London masseuses who provide Sensual Massage services are accustomed to getting bad clients with the good ones. Make sure you show her that you’re a good client by being there at your appointment time or a few minutes before it. If traffic snarls you, make sure to call her and make her aware of what’s going on. Respect can go a long way in the massage treatment.
#2 Keep Your Nerves Steady
If you’ve never had a sensual or erotic massage in London before, it’s expected that you’d be nervous. But, for things to go successfully, you need to keep calm as much as you can. If you’re nervous about things, consider mentioning something about your surroundings.
(This is a trick actors will use when they’re nervous when meeting a casting director. They’ll walk in and see a black leather couch in a corner and say something about it.)
All you need to do is say something small about it. No reason for jokes; just an obvious statement. What this does is make you feel grounded in the here and now and your physical location. It removes the fear you may have. This also gives your massage provider a chance to engage with you in a non-threatening kind of way. Watch for how they respond to what you say. How they respond will let you know what mindset they’re in and what session you’ll end up with.
Make the comment about the surroundings. If you like how their room has been setup, mention it. Does the music they have playing seem to soothe you? Mention that. If you like a piece of artwork in the office, say something about it. This will generate conversation and help you to relax too.
If it’s not too awkward, give her a personal compliment – something genuine. If she suspects it’s not, things will get tense, awkward and nervous. The majority of sensual massage therapists will groom themselves for clients, and if she’s made the extra effort, let her know that you’re grateful for it.
#3 Let The Massage Therapist Lead You
It’s important to remember that your sensual massage therapist is the one in charge. This service is for you, but she’s the one in charge of things. And, don’t forget that in most states, there are laws against FBSM services with hands-only. Therefore, she’s taking a huge risk to provide you with this service. If the service is being done from an apartment or house, chances are she lives there or spends most of her time there. This means she’s accountable for rent and will need the space for other massage jobs. You have the choice of whether or not you go back; she doesn’t. Let her lead you.
#4 Treat Her Like A Lady, Not A Prostitute
Your sensual massage therapist is not an escort, so don’t treat her like she’s one. Yes, the London sensual massages do involve nudity and touching from the provider. However, for her, the experience is passive. For you, you just need to lay down, relax, enjoy the touching and let things go. She takes care of you physically, sexually (hands only) and actively. You may even feel spiritually elevated… if she’s really good at her job.
You shouldn’t expect you’ll get sexual favors, as these are *extras and may not happen. If she does it, great. If not, oh well!
#5 Talk To Her During The Session
It’s not uncommon to feel in the moment and zone out, but you can always provide her with some direction. At the start of it, you can let her know about sore spots or injuries you have – perhaps she can put more attention toward them. Do you want a pillow? Tell her. If you’d like to avoid the oils and lotions, make her aware of this. She’ll be able to alter things to fit your likings.
Offer more feedback while you’re in the session. Is she addressing the muscles that need to be dealt with? Do you like how she’s touching you? Do you want something a little lighter or rougher? She’s trying to give you the best possible massage, and you set the tone from the beginning to end.
#6 Respect Her Boundaries
You want to show your sensual massage therapist respect, and this means respecting her boundaries. Boundaries for sensual massage providers can vary, which means don’t assume… ask before you touch her. Also, don’t just assume that you can kiss her without giving her some kind of warning. It’s called “Kiss rape” today and you don’t want to be labeled a kiss rapist, do you?
Make sure you’ve done research on the different London sensual massage therapists available for your area, and know what limits she has and respect those limits.
#7 Ask Questions, Just Not Too Many Personal Ones
Your massage therapist is likely to ask questions about your life – what kind of work are you involved in, where you’re coming from, etc. All too often though clients think this gives them free reign to ask the massage therapist personal details about herself. Some may be fine answering them while others don’t like this. If your sensual massage therapist doesn’t want to answer, don’t probe them for the answer. Respect her wishes and leave it be. If you keep pressing the issue, she’s liable to become annoyed and start lying to you to protect herself.
Remember, respect! You have to give it to earn it. She may open up in later sessions, but, at the start, let it go if she doesn’t willingly share it when you first ask.
#8 Let The Extras Happen As They Come, Don’t Just Ask For Them Outright.
When it comes to extra services in your sensual massage, this can be a slippery slope. Remember, it’s actually in a ‘grey zone’ in UK to ask for a sexual act in return for money. There are some FBSM providers that will provide these extra services, but that depends on a few things. Consider their advertisements and how it’s worded. You may learn what the boundaries are.
Remember, though, it’s not included in the London erotic massage services, and if you want this type of service, you need to go with an escort service. This is what their business was designed for.
#9 Leave Your Worries and Troubles Stay Outside
The last thing you need to be doing is thinking about the things you have to do – work, clean house, take care of kids, etc. You also want to keep yourself turned off or, vibrate or silent. An erotic massage is time for yourself, so make use of it. Your therapist won’t have her phone turned on either, and there should be no distractions at all. Everything about the outside world can wait for the 30 to 60 minutes.
Don’t cheat yourself by thinking about issues you face every day. Think about what’s going on in the here and now, and feel the touch your provider is giving. In the end, the whole massage therapy experience will be effective.
#10 Remember To Give Her A Tip
If you like her and her service, be sure you tip her well. If she thinks you’re a penny-pincher, she may decide she’s not “available” for when you want to see her next. Tipping is also ideal for reasonable rates. If you enjoyed the service and didn’t feel like you paid enough, let her know by giving her a tip.
Tipping is also important if she went above and beyond her normal massage routine. Remember, this was a business transaction for her, and she gave you a special service. Let her know you thank her for her time and service by rewarding her.
You’ll thank yourself later for it. And, she’s liable to remember you for it.
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